Is your relationship no longer a place of safety? Do you wonder whether your partner is really there for you? That you matter?
Perhaps you imagined life with your partner would always be passionate and fulfilling. Or that you would forever share a deep emotional bond. Sadly, many couples get stuck in unsatisfying and distant relationships.
Losing our connection with a loved one jeopardizes our sense of security. When we get stuck in vicious cycles of blame and defensiveness, we experience a primal feeling of panic, or we may lash out in anger, or simply withdraw in helplessness and despair.
Yet the science of attachment tells us that relationship and connection are essential to our well-being. We need to feel safe in our most intimate relationship.
Repairing Your Bond
Through an emotionally focused therapy (EFT) approach, we help couples restore the secure, loving bond they once shared by identifying, then changing, the destructive patterns of interaction that distance and divide.
Is Your Child Hard to Parent?
Does parenting seem harder than it should be? Are you frustrated with your child’s behaviour, or feeling guilty because you're a "bad" parent? You are not alone. In some ways, parenting is harder today than ever before. As a parent, you are meant to be the most important person in your child’s life. But you are also meant to have the help and support of many significant others. This “village of attachment” and support no longer exists in our society. So parents are left to go it alone. And this can sometimes leave you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.
What Makes Our Parenting Approach Different
We offer an alternative to the punitive, fear- and separation-based methods championed in most of the parenting literature today. Our approach, pioneered by renowned developmental psychologist, Gordon Neufeld, puts you back in touch with your parenting intuition and restores you to your natural authoritative role as provider and nurturer to your children. We help you understand your child from the inside out. Instead of focusing on the “misbehaviour”, we help you gain insight into why your children are behaving the way they are, so that you can address the root of the problem instead of dealing with the symptoms. We help you understand and meet your children’s fundamental developmental needs, which are:
- A secure attachment to you and other adults responsible for their care;
- Discipline that does not punish or divide; and
Structure, rituals and routines to compensate for their natural immaturity and keep them out of trouble.
We help you parent from a place of understanding, love and connection. In short, we show you how you are the answer to your child.
Get in Touch
Couple and Family Therapy Montreal provides parenting consulting, individual therapy, couple therapy and family therapy in Montreal, Quebec. If you, your relationship or your family are in need of extra support through a challenging situation or you are ready for some positive changes in your life, we look forward to working with you to achieve your goals.
Please call or E-mail us today for an individual, couple, parenting or family therapy consultation.